Well, tough issue for me, as I'm realizing this is very much relevant in my life right now. I've always had the hunger for knowledge and within the last 8 years specifically in regard to health and well-being. My problem, however, has been putting that knowledge into action. I read and read about diet and exercise, but then have the hardest time sticking to a nutritious way of eating or getting regular exercise. This has been the case for years now. I'm very good at the all or nothing approach. I'll be a maniac for a couple of weeks then have 3 months of the opposite.
I always thought "I can be a great chiropractor regardless of this", but I've realized lately how ridiculous of a thought that is. This is something that needs to be resolved for me to grow to the place I am moving. Otherwise, limitations will arise without a doubt.
I was reading through old forum topics and saw one about practicing what you preach and I guess it inspired me to write this and hear others' thoughts on the subject. I'm hoping this group and DCM as a whole can help me with my professional and personal goals and getting congruent in this part of my life is a big for me.
Sorry for the rant!
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Posted 10 months ago #
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I just finished Carol Dweck's book, Mindset. If you look back at threads about books, this one is a top of the list DC Mentors book. Read that for the key to the behavior you've described. Then ask your coaches to remind you of that and help you strategize your way back to growth when you go back to older habits. Speaking of one who sits and stews in feeling like a failure while doing nothing about it, the hardest part for me is usually making the phone call! Things start changing once I do though.
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P.S. The first step is probably to stop labeling yourself as "an all or nothing person". If that's what you "know" yourself to be then all you do year after year is prove to yourself that you've chosen the right label! Proving yourself right is LOTS of fun.
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I'll check that book out. Thanks for the thoughts. I agree on the self-labeling for sure.
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As Dr. Sea said on last weeks pod, resiliency is the key. You can't perform at your peak for patients if you don't get yourself in the best shape possible. We all have physical, mental, and emotional limits, but how many of us can say that we truly know what they are?
I've been reading "SEAL Team 6, Memoirs of a Navy SEAL Sniper" and one of the things that keeps popping up is their resiliency. There are a ton of studs that don't make it past a couple of days of training, either because of physical or mostly mental limits. The instructors finally reach a point in training where they could do almost anything to the guys left, both physically and mentally, and they wouldn't quit. At that point, the real training starts. On their missions, they may not sleep more than a couple of hours over several days with very little food, but they still have to perform both physically and mentally. People are counting on them, and they would rather die than let them down. That's where resiliency and tenaciousness come in.
We have a different mission to accomplish, and it takes years of consistently applying training from our elite "intel commanders". You must train your ass off, apply the training under any and all circumstances, then debrief what worked and didn't work. We must all train our physical, mental, and emotional limits to the point that we can excel in any circumstance. It will never be perfect, but the people that count on US deserve our best. Kudos to you for recognizing this area early and setting out to make the change. Some of us take years to become aware, and even longer to take action!
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Yes welcome to the club. I have called it bipolar over the years. I agree with all of the above. I would throw in also the book Flow by a guy with a long Russian name. I might give you some insight as to why we can swing like a pendulum at times. Also the book The Dip, I have found to be awesome for helping reassure that my mind that if I just keep going I will succeed on the level I am shooting for even though during alot of the journey there it can seem questionable. Which is why most people don't ever go big because most bag out just shy of making big break throughs. Most of all I would pass along the advise to view all of this as a marathon not a sprint. I have sprinted many times only to "pass out" from exhaustion mixed with a level of disappointment of it not working out as I had hoped, while if I had picked a steady pace (not slow, steady) then I would have likely been much further along. But that is how it works. Trial and error and as you are doing here and our coaches do all the time, trying to learn form others mistakes to skip a few would be jsut fine as well but that resiliency word is the key. We will all get knocked off track and often, that is human and to expect anything less would be most frustrating, it is how quickly we get up and dust ourselves off and keep going that matters most.
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I've been MIA for a spell so perhaps I'm covering old ground here...I've been stoked lately on James Chestnut's work, IE, Eat Well-Move Well–Think Well as it relates to a deeper sense of why personal congruency makes so much sense for optimizing our innate genetic intelligence. His four books outline the Big Idea, beautifully. Holy diligence, the guy has done his homework and walks his talk. I truly appreciate your transparency, Dr. Robison, as identification and declaration are genius first steps. In my world, addiction and neuroscience, 90 days is a good time frame for your neurology to recognize and anchor the new behavior. If you can participate in something, anything–every day for 90 days, neuroplasticity will take hold and deliver dividends that you will not want to blow off so easily. Honestly, the highlight of my day is from 5-7am when studying, exercising and stimulating my mechanoreceptors when all synapses are firing and "impossible is nothing." Here's to you and one glorious day at a time.
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