The Art of Being Present, Episode #131
So and key, besides having fun, is to be present. Dr. Sovinsky alluded to it yesterday – being contactable, being present.
What’s the absolute opposite of being present? It’s being totally absent, physically, mentally, spiritually absent, being vacant, being sick. Citibank was one of our primary employers here, they employed 6000 people back in their day, before the recession. With newly hired chiropractic assistants I would use this analogy – with a staff of three, if one of you misses that would be like 2000 people at Citibank calling in sick today. What would happen to their business if a 1/3 of their work force didn’t show up, 2000 people said, “I got the flu.” It would shut them down, it would shut down a major multi-national company. Absenteeism is the absolute worst.
Second worst is presenteeism. This is a term that says you’re there physically but you’re not there. You’re going through the motions. You’re pretending to be there, you’re acting as if you’re there, but you’re really not connecting with that patient, with that person, on each and every visit, each time you have an opportunity to exchange in a dialogue or a conversation with them.
So the secret to this is what we call present-ism. Whether you’re in the office or not this is the secret of life I’m sharing with you right now- wherever you are, there you go, that’s where you’re at. When you’re there with a person be with them. If you’re at home do not be thinking about the office, be at home, be with your spouse, be with your children, be with your mother, be with whoever you’re with. Be. For crying out loud, they deserve your attention. Be with them 100% each and every minute that you’re with them. That’s your responsibility as a decent human being. Don’t pretend to be present, don’t bring the office home. Chiropractors, leave it at the office. Don’t bring home to office. It’s a two way street.