Most of you have heard of Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist really at the cutting edge of healthy thinking, healthy behavior and ways to access and treat behavioral conditions. In one of his books he talked about the 18/40/60 rule. I want to talk about that for a moment in the context of your life as a person leading others, as a person that is building a business, and your life as a person who is helping other people reach their potential. And I want to discuss how the 18/40/60 rule can actually apply to your chiropractic practice in Part 2.
So, let’s look at 18 years old. Do you remember that time? You were obsessed with what people thought about you, you worried about what your friends thought, you worried about what your teachers and coaches thought, you worried about what your friends thought about what you wore. You worried about whether you were a cool kid or not or why you weren’t a cool kid. You worried about whether or not you had the right bike, or the right car. All those things were just in your brain causing mental RAM noise. These anxiety riddled neuronal firings dominated your thoughts and through the process of synaptogenesis created lasting beliefs and behaviors.
And too often another’s opinion, their idea of you, becomes your idea of you. The bottom line is you just knew that everybody was thinking something about you and that it probably wasn’t good.
And then you turn 40. And at 40 you kind of take the attitude that you really don’t care, I mean zero, underscore, you really don’t care what other people about you. The truth is what you’ve done at that point is just sort of encapsulated all this rejection and maybe just put it into a place of re-action. No matter what kind of career success you’ve had, what kind of status you have in the world, what kind of money you have, what kind of cars you have, that underlying feeling at that 40 says, “I really don’t care.” The reality is that the 18 year old behavior really didn’t change, you just sort of walled it off and then, all of the sudden, this thing called aging occurs.
This doesn’t have to be chronological though. This can have life experiences and you could go through this a lot faster. But the ideas here is that at 60 you have the epiphany that no one was really thinking about you that much in the first place. They didn’t really care about all those things that you obsessed about. They didn’t really care about your profession, what you were doing, what you were thinking. That wasn’t on their mind because they were thinking of what? Themselves! And they were thinking about how you were perceiving them.
The epiphany is like a big breath. Take a big breath and be 60 years old right now. And if you’re 70 and you haven’t hit that point yet, hit the point with me. Take a big breath and exhale as an affirmation that, “Hey, other people don’t really care that much.” What they care about is having authentic relationships with me. So turn off your worries and your anxiety. Did you know the archaic definition of inspiration means literally to breathe life into people? I hope that we have inspired you to let it go.
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